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Family / Domestic Violence

domestic violence

Any behaviour that makes someone else feel controlled and fearful is never OK. Everyone in a family or in a relationship should feel safe and nurtured. A healthy relationship is supportive, trusting and warm but in some relationships, one person uses power and fear to control the other. These relationships are emotionally abusive and can become extremely unsafe.

People in violent relationships feel frightened. They feel as though they cannot be themselves because their actions, thoughts and choices are determined by the person who is controlling them.

Witnessing violence at home makes children feel scared and alone. It can affect the way they behave and lead to problems at school or with their friends. Experiencing violence can physically harm children, make them anxious and fearful and affect the way their brain develops.

No one should be frightened of their partner or someone in their family.

If you are frightened and fear for your safety, call 111 for immediate help.

Key points 

  • Abuse can happen to anyone of any age and gender and from any walk of life.
  • No matter what your situation, you deserve to live without pain and fear.
  • Whether you’re the abused, the abuser, or a concerned friend or family member, it’s important to know that there is help available.
  • Learning about the different types of abuse and what you can do to stop or prevent it can make a huge difference in your own or someone else’s life.

Types of abuse

Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional or psychological. It can also include financial and/or spiritual abuse. Abuse to anyone, at any age.

Domestic violence is not only a ‘fist in the face’ or ‘a kick to the head’. The law says that violence can be physical, sexual or psychological.

Physical abuse

Nobody - including a husband, wife, partner, son, daughter, brother, sister, grandson, grand-daughter or an adult who looks after children - has the right to hit, punch, kick or in any way assault another person.

Sexual abuse

Nobody is allowed to have any sexual contact with another person without permission.

Psychological abuse

This includes intimidation, threats and mind games. Children who see or hear family violence suffer psychological and developmental harm.

Related links


www.areyouok.org.nz
www.whiteribbon.org.nz
www.ageconcern.org.nz